Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Trying to fight

So we made it pretty far before our first "family illness" struck the family. We all have been worn down, and it started with me with a terrible cough and congestion, and now my poor boys have it. I took them both to the doctor today and found out they both had double ear infections! My poor boys! So we now have lots of medicine to help them recover.

Keaton had his six month check-up a little while ago. He was 50 % in both height and weight, which is astounding since he was born in the 97%! He was doing great in all of his milestones!

Saturday, October 9, 2010

Keaton update- 6 months old

I have slacked on updating about my sweet baby lately, so I am going to stray away from the serious marriage book posts, and talk about Keaton Micah.

On Oct. 12th he will be six months old!! It is really hard to believe.

*He is now eating cereal, fruits and veggies three times a day. He also eats his bottle with each feeding, and in the snack times as well.
*He has a smile that melts my heart. He crinkles his nose up and opens his mouth real wide to show how happy he is.
*Brayden was always so insecure in new situations and new people (and still is) and Keaton is totally the opposite. He glows at anyone that talks to him, and will go to anyone. He "talks" to new people (just like his mommy!) and show off his personality.
* He has been waking up a few times a night with getting teeth (he now has his bottom two!) This has been rough, but other than sleep interrupted he is a happy camper.
*He rolls and "crawls" by scooting. He is doing things so much faster than his big brother did!
*He is his own little baby boy. Everyone tells me he looks like Brayden, but to me they are so different.
(He goes for his 6 month check up on Monday, so I will now his percentiles and weight and height.)
I am soo blessed to have this precious baby to love.

Monday, October 4, 2010

Sex Changes Everything

Why Sex unlocks a man's emotions
It's not shocking to know that men want more sex but do we know why?
All men want more sex and they believe that the women that love them don't seem to realize that this is a crisis not only for them but for the relationship. Why is this a crisis?? For them it is not just physical, but highly emotional. The author says lack of sex to him is like him not talking to us.
*Sex fills a powerful emotional need
~All men deal with secret feelings of insecurity and inadequecy and having sex assures him you find him desirable, helps loneliness, and gives them confidence
~All men want to be wanted- its not just the act of sex but they want you to want them. It's not just when we say no that it hurts them but they want you to be engaged and satisfied
Benefit #1 fulfilling sex makes him feel loved and desired
Benefit #2 gives him confidence
Wound #1 if she doesn't want to they feel incredible rejection- they feel like we are rejecting THEM- if you really don't want to have sex that night you need to reassure them that they are still desirable
Wound #2 Your lack of desire can send him into a depression

*Choose to love him in the way he needs- the author speaks about how most of us probably feel, we work, we clean, we take care of the kids, and we do all of this because we love our husbands and at the end of the day we are exhausted, but are we loving him the way he needs to be loved? Will he really care if the laundry isn't folded or if the dishes aren't washed? Are we saying no to the one thing they ask of us?

Monday, September 27, 2010

Chapter 4 The Lonliest Burden-

Why his need to provide weighs your man down and why he likes it that way...
Men feel that providing is their job- they feel a need to provide regardless of whether the wife stays at home or works. Just like women obsess of body insecurity men constantly obsess over the need to provide.

Why do they feel this way in this day and age when women can provide for themselves?
1. providing is at the core of their identity- they feel powerful when they provide, and they want to be depended on
2. providing is a way to say I love you- that is a way men express their love
3. providing accompanies his need to succeed- they like to feel successful at work

This need of providing means...
1. there is a risk of failure- they feel terrible when money is tight, worry a lot about losing their job
2. they feel trapped- they want to be depended on but sometimes feel trapped by that responsibility

What can we do to help?
1. help relieve pressure- when money is tight don't spend money unnecessarily
2. encourage and appreciate him- make sure he knows your pleasure in any financial progress so that he knows his hard work has paid off

Next week's chapter...sex- why sex unlocks a man's emotions

Sunday, September 19, 2010

Why our Mr. Smooth doesn't always have it going on...

Chapter 2 in my "For Women Only" book was entitled "The Performance of a Lifetime." In a survey, the author found out that no matter how confident a man appeared on the outside almost three fourths of them admitted to feeling insecure about what others' opinion of them. She says men believe
1. they are always being judged- they think about what others think about them all the time
2. they think they don't know how to do a lot of things- rather it is something with the kids or something new at work

*She said the majority of men want to be good husbands, but they are so tired of "messing up" at home that they do give up at it. A lot of men say they know how to achieve at work and get complimented, and they know how to achieve on a sports field or court and get that rush or compliment, but if they aren't getting any positive support at home they don't know whether or not they are doing a good job. Rather if they are getting negativity it makes them want to stop trying all together, because they feel like they cannot succeed at being a good husband.

So what should we as wives do?
1. affirm him- when a man has the the support of this wife he feels like he can do anything; build him up when he is down; tell him how great he is
2. don't tear him down- if we focus our attention on what he is doing wrong, then we are undermining what we want most- for him to do it right
*only one in four men feel actively appreciated by their family- it says if they don't feel appreciated at home they will seek it somewhere else- whether it is at work, on the ball field, or with another woman
3. create a safety zone- they need a place where they can make mistakes and not be yelled at for it
4. supportive sex- sex plays a huuuge role in a man's self confidence- they say if he has had a rough week at work that will make him feel like he can do anything!

*A wife can give her husband confidence and it's not about being the "supportive little wife." It's about realizing that despite their veneer of confidence, our husbands really are insecure and they crave our affirmation.

Wednesday, September 15, 2010

"For Women Only"

I am so tired lately between the boys, working, and grad school, but our small group has started a new book where the girls are reading "For Women Only" and the guys are reading "For Men Only." Our book gives us insight to our husbands, and how to love them the best we can. If you are anything like me, I always welcome advice. The past few years it has been mostly advice for babies, but I have been blessed with this book on marriage. I have been at fault for trying to give Drew what I need in a marriage, instead of what he needs.

The chapter we read this week was on a guys number one need- respect. When asked if they would rather be unloved or disrespected men overwhemingly picked unloved. They NEED respect. As much as we need reassurance and to be told they love us, they need to know we respect them. How can we do this?
1. Do not tell them to do something over and over (guilty!) Even if they don't do it on your time frame doesn't mean they aren't going to do it.
2. Let them figure things out and perservere without you telling them what to do. (I am extremely guilty of this with the babies- trying to tell Drew what to do.)
3. Do NOT talk down to them or demand things of them in front of people. Guys care more than we know about what other guys think of them, and it said we should be praising them in front of other people. That hugely builds their confidence.
4. Let them make decisions. I know I am the stronger personality, have a more fiery temper, but I do need to slow down and really listen, and not demand things.

I pray this week that I can show Drew respect in many ways ..:)

Monday, September 6, 2010

Catching Up

Needless to say, since I have left the blogging world for almost half a year there have been many things I have not been able to document!
1. April 12th- Keaton was born! See previous post for details!

2. Mid-April- We sold our house! After we had been home from the hospital with Keaton just a few hours, we got a phone call that our house had sold! We were soo excited. It took our house nine months to sell. We had to get our butts in gear because we had not looked at any houses yet.

3. May 15th- Megan, my middle sister, got married! It was such a beautiful wedding. I served as matron of honor alongside my sister Jess who was maid of honor. Drew was a groomsman, and Brayden was the ringbearer! He was a little hestitant going down the aisle, but he ended up going down with my dad, and my dad had to hurry up to walk Megan down. Thankfully my babysitter Krisi came and kept both boys in the nursery during the cermony. Then Audra took Brayden home from the reception and put him to bed so we could enjoy the evening.

4. End of May- Audra graduated from law school. Keaton, Drew, and I headed to Columbus to watch Audra graduate from law school. We are very proud of her! She now is waiting until February to go to basic training for the Army Jag in Virginia Beach.

5. End of May-beginning of June- We moved in with my parents for a few weeks since our house sold and we couldn't be in our new house for a few weeks. It actually went really well, and it was nice having the extra help.

6. June 13th- Brayden's 2nd birthday! Brayden turned two, and this was the day we moved into our new house. We decided to have his party a few weeks later so we could get settled in our house. He had a Mickey Mouse themed party, and we cooked out. There was lots of family and friends, and it was nice for everyone to see our new home.

7. June and July- Mostly stayed home and enjoyed our family and our new house! I took Brayden to the water park a few times, and he loved swimming this summer. We had lots of play dates with Parker and Cullen and Ella.

8. August- I headed back to work! I got to go back to straight 2nd grade, and have enjoyed being back to work. I had a wonderful four months home with KEaton, and now am juggling being a working mom.

Sunday, September 5, 2010

Oh my...it has been about five months...the birth of Keaton Micah

I feel a little terrible that it has been so long, and I have yet to post about my precious boy being born! I am reading about all of my friends who have just had their babies, and realized I have yet to do mine. Needless to say my life has been non-stop since having Keaton...we moved into a new house a few weeks after he was born.

Keaton Micah was born via c-section April 12, 2010. Dr. Spirek knew he was going to be another big one, so she advised we have the c-section. We went in the morning of and had Brayden stay with my parents the night before. It was very odd going in to have a baby and not being in labor! They took me back to the room, put in the spinal, laid me back quick on the table, tied my arms down, and brought Drew back. I felt like I was going to throw up, they gave me medicine, then I thought I was going to freak out and they gave me medicine. It was amazing to me how bright it was in there, and how many people were in there. They were all standing around me ready to go. I could feel a lot of pressure and pushing and pulling, and before I knew it they had my sweet boy out! They were all trying to guess how big he was, but all I knew was that he was bigger than Brayden! They took him out to check him, and came back to let me know he was 9 lbs 10 ounces 19 inches long! So he was exactly one pound heavier and one inch shorter than his brother!

They wheeled me to recovery, and the next few days is honestly a big blur. For those friends of mine that say a c-section is no problem- I think you are crazy! (Or you don't have a natural birth to compare it with!) I had a lot of pain, couldn't sit up out of bed. Thank God for my husband, and for Krisi (who keeps my boys) and came to stay with me a little while. Even after coming home from the hospital I had lots of pain. I would wake up in the middle of the night shaking and crying because I couldn't sit up out of bed, and even still my incision is sore from time to time! Although the recovery was harder, I am thankful my doctor had the foresight to recommend the surgery or my whopper would have been a doozy to get out!

Our home life is "settling down." I guess as settled down as it can get with two boys 22 months apart. Brayden adores Keaton, and loves kissing him, and talking about him. There are just times he wants Mommy to put him down to do something with him. Overall I think he has adjusted better than many kids I have heard about. I don't know if it was because he was so young.

Keaton is now almost five months old, and he is about 16 pounds. He sleeps 10-5 or 6 and then goes back to bed after a bottle. He laughs, rolls over, and is such a happy baby. Actually I'm not sure if he is a happier baby, or mainly that Drew and I are much more laid back this time. I did not nurse at all this time, and that has been one of the best decisions for me as I was able to truly rest and recover and didn't battle all of the difficult emotions and fatigue like I did with Brayden.

I had Keaton in April, took 8 weeks off work, had to go back the last three days of school, and then had 8 weeks of summer. I feel so blessed of all my time at home, and love that I had him so that it worked out that way. Keaton is now at Krisi's house for the sitter with Brayden and baby Sarah. My life has been hectic, but I wouldn't trade one second with my sweet little family.
I will post of the rest of summer soon...hopefully! :)

Tuesday, April 6, 2010

Easter weekend and Keaton update

What a beautiful weekend we had for Easter! Saturday morning we went to the Big Bunny Party at Crossroads here in Georgetown. Don and Roxane came down to be a part of the festivities as well. Brayden hunted eggs and actually got into it this year! They also had inflatables but he was content watching the kids from the outside. (He has his daddy's sense of adventure:) Sunday morning he got his Easter basket filled with Mickey Mouse goodies, and then dressed in his outfit. It was a hand-me-down from a lady I teach with- pin striped navy suit coat, white and navy polo and navy pants with navy and white boat shoes. TOO CUTE! I had signed up to work the nursery at church so he came with me. We came back and had lunch at our house, and then headed over to my parents for an egg hunt with him and Ryleigh and Bryn. They were so funny!

Today we had our weekly dr's visit and we are 38 1/2 weeks. They did an ultrasound to see how big Keaton is, and he measured 9 15!!!!! The tech kept saying she couldn't believe how big his head is, and his legs wouldn't fit on the screen. So the decision is .....Monday April 12th Keaton will be here via c-section. We will head to the dr. Monday morning and have our sweet "little" boy! :) We couldn't be more excited.

Thursday, April 1, 2010

Aquarium and Keaton update

Last weekend Drew Brayden and I met Audra Chris and Don and Roxane in Newport at the aquarium. Brayden loved it! It was good that he was a little nervous in the big crowd, and didn't want to get down so we were able to carry him through. He saw the fish, turtles, crocodiles but his favorite part were the penguins! He laid down on his belly to watch them in the tank and "waddle waddled" all around with them. It was very sweet.

We are 38 weeks tomorrow, and getting more excited about the arrival of Keaton! We go back on Tuesday morning for an ultrasound to check for size and hopefully to make final plans. We are so excited!

Sunday, March 7, 2010

Ohio visit, big boy bed, & time-outs

Well we hadn't been to Drew's parents house in a while, and we figured with Keaton coming soon we should take a trip up there. Audra also came down from law school in Columbus so she could see Brayden. We headed up Saturday morning, and spent the day there. Today we went to their church, and Brayden did good in the service for a while until he wanted to get down and run around. Grandpa took him out while the service finished. After nap time we headed down to Drew's aunts in Cincinnati for dinner. It was super yummy, and it was good to see them. Brayden loves more and more getting to see his Gran, Grandpa, and Aunt Audra. He gets excited when he sees them, and loves being spoiled by them.

A week ago we decided that Brayden probably needed to start sleeping in his new room in his toddler bed. We didn't want to wait to after Keaton was born to start that new transition. We were really nervous about him staying in the bed, but he did so good! He was scared the first few nights, and we sang him a few songs until he relaxed and calmed down. We walked out before he fell asleep because we didn't want him to get used to falling asleep with us in there. He cried for a minute then went to sleep. He then stayed in his bed till we came to get him the next morning! Since then he has been doing great, and tonight didn't cry at all! What a sweet boy! It makes the birth of Keaton a little less stressful knowing we are getting a few things on the way with Brayden.

We also decided that it was time for some discipline with our almost 21 month old. So far we have been using our voice and doing verbal corrections, but more and more he has been challenging us. Thankfully I am a huge fan of super nanny, and followed her procedure word for word. Drew and I were really apprehensive, and doubted that he would actaully do it correctly. the first night took about ten minutes of putting him back on the rug, but after his second time-out he now does them perfect! The hardest part was Drew and I just realizing that he really could handle it, and having us stick through that first one to make sure he learned what the expectation was.

We are heading to the doctor tommorrow for a check-up with Keaton, and I am anxious to see what they have to say!

Sunday, February 28, 2010


I feel incredibly blessed to have such wonderful friends and family that threw me a shower today. Laurel and Brooke planned and threw a shower today for Keaton Micah at my parents' house. There was an adorable sailboat cake, blue punch, and yummy food.

We got so many gifts! It was so exciting to get formula, diapers, outfits, and items that had Keaton's name embroidered on it. It is such a different experience this time, because we didn't need the big items and we knew how wonderful all the diapers and formula are! It also made me very excited about Keaton. Our world is all the time Brayden, and I love that little boy with all of my being, but it was nice to have a day to focus on his little brother.

Thank you all so much for thinking and caring for us and our growing family!

Monday, February 22, 2010

32 Weeks

We went to the doctor today, and everything was good. I gained 3 pounds. The heart rate was 149. She is still worried about my blood sugar, and did some more glucose tests today with blood work. We go back in two weeks. We will be setting up an ultrasound to find out the size of the baby, and making plans for delivery!

Tuesday, February 9, 2010

Keaton update

So I went to the doctor yesterday for our 30 week checkup. Crazy that we are already this far! I gained 3 1/2 lbs in the last 3 weeks, and his heart rate was 149. He is measuring wonderful and my weight gain is normal.

She was still a little concerned with my glucose levels- although they weren't in the diabetic range they were still elevated and said that I was glucose resistant. She said that could explain why both boys were big.

She wants to keep a close eye on my growth, and is going to do another ultrasound at 36 weeks. From there she will make a decision about inducing, or possibly even a c-section. She wants to be cautious, because Brayden wasn't an easy delivery.

We now go every two weeks to the doctor, and are getting closer and closer!

Brayden is almost 20 months old, and actually got to hear his brother's heart beat yesterday. I don't think he was listening- he was playing with the buttons on my chair, but he was at least there! He is now counting 2-twenty- all the tenns numbers sound the same. :) He likes saying the alphabet- c, k, r, w, x, y, z He loves the letter w. He also loves Sarah (the little girl at the babysitter.) He walks around the house calling out to her randomly. He is still terrified of the bath tub, haircuts, and nail cutting.

Our family is getting closer and closer to Megan's wedding, and Audra's graduation from law school. We are super proud of our sisters!

Monday, January 25, 2010

April 13th

So I went to the doctor last week for a baby Keaton check-up. I had gained six pounds this month and am now up to 128. The heart rate was 160, and everything looked great! Dr. Spirek has been concerned about how big Keaton is, especially after how big of a baby Brayden was, and so she went ahead and scheduled my induction date a week early! She had orginially suggusted Monday April 12th, and then said the 13th since Brayden was born on the 13th. So it looks like that is when we are going to get to meet our sweet little boy! That is the week after spring break so I will be done teaching once we hit spring break. Now that we have had a few snow days- I may have to go back for the last few days of school. So I was once the teacher that LOVED snow days, but don't want any more this year, because the more we have- the more I will have to make up.

Brayden is now 19 months old and he cracks me up every day. He is counting 2-10, and recognizes all of these numbers. He talks all the time and is SO active. He LOVES to read and has recently fallen in love with Chick-a-chick-a boom boom, and Where the Wild Things are. He will roar and gnash his teeth and show his claws! He still doesn't understand that he is going to have a baby brother, but I know he will be great!

Tuesday, January 5, 2010

New Years Recap

So we had a wild night for New Years Eve! We put Brayden to bed, and Greg and Laurel came over and we played Partini and Apples to Apples. We actually had a great time, and are thankful for friends that don't mind staying in and playing games.

New Years Day Drew and I went to see a early movie, and then we headed to Cinci to stay with Blake, Lauren, and Caleb for the night. Caleb was so good sharing his toys, and Brayden was enthralled with all the big trucks. It is always good to see them, and we played games as well and headed home the next day.

Some big events that happened in 2009:
My cousin Whitney got married; Over spring break we went to Owensboro to see Lynsie and Robert and sweet Emmie Kate for the first time; I started grad school; Drew and I celebrated our 3rd anniversary and went to the Melting Pot; my great grandma Gran passed away; I went to Gatlinburg with Brayden, my parents, and sisters for a few days; we had Brayden's first birthday extravaganza; we vacationed in Myrtle Beach for a week with Blake, Lauren, and Caleb; Drew and I traveled to Chicago to visit his sister with his parents; Drew got a job promotion at work!; Megan got engaged!; we found out we were expecting baby number 2!; I took a trip to Gatlinburg with three girls I teach with while Brayden stayed home with Drew and had a great time shopping and eating; celebrated my 26th birthday; had holidays with my family; found out baby #2 was a boy

Some big things coming in 2010:
2 grad classes for me starting in a few weeks; Keaton Micah in April; Megan and Garrett's wedding in May; some friends having babies later in the summer :)

I just thank God that I have such a blessed life, and that I enjoy every bit of this coming year!

Family on Christmas

Family on Christmas
Merry Christmas

Spiky hair

Spiky hair
All dolled up for Christmas in Ohio

My little Santa

My little Santa
Ho Ho Ho!

Happy boy

Happy boy
On the way to church

Mostly about Brayden and Keaton, and the Beckett family! :)